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Kellner expressed many things in her paper about cross cultural dating. She makes a point of it being not all about race. In a cross-cultural relationship, the couple can be from different backgrounds as well as different social standings. She answers the question of how it got to be this way, after such a long time of traditional marriages. "Increased cultural movement, immigration, tourism, job training, and study abroad have created couples whose romantic choices reach across cultural, racial, and religious lines" (1). She discusses the challenges that people face when being in a cross cultural relationship- there are many extra hoops to jump through. From a procreation standpoint, what will the child be taught and by which traditions? It's only one of the many things that can get in the way of two people from two very different places. Gender views the subject from a respective standpoint- respect and equality within the two lovers. She uses an example through sexuality. "...Anna connected to the core belief system of her culture. During sex with Albert she assumed a traditional collective-culture female role in which she acted as if she was not entitled to her own pleasure...Albert was forced to regress to the role of a man who objectifies women, which made him feel as though he was a ‘'rapist.' The woman he cared about did not appreciate his evolved gender-role identity, and Albert felt undesired as a man" (4).